Living and Knowing

Two days ago I had the pleasure of meeting Jeffery - a good looking successful gentleman.

I have not been able to let go of his story since meeting him.
Is it Living or Craziness?
Tell me your thoughts?

Jeffery was introduced to Laila via the internet by a friend.
He describes Laila, every detail of her laugh, her zest for life, her femininity -
he paints a picture of a beautiful soulful women as if he has known her since teenage years.

Jeffery has just walked into my friends shop to show her the exquisite arrangement of blinding diamonds he has put together for the day he proposes.........

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I ask this glowing man about his true love and he talks of her travels, her Passions, her ambitions, how she completes him.

I ask how long this beautiful Moroccan (living in Holland) and this South African Yuppie have been together.....

"We have been chatting and dating for 6 weeks" Jeffery says with a cheeky menacing look in his eye - he can't wait for the reaction - "Oh" I say

"So when did you two meet then?" I ask

"I will meet my Beautiful Laila on Saturday" He smiles "and propose to her, If she accepts we shall Marry on Tuesday"

I am actually breath taken as I think this over -
I choose to respond rather then react.....

We get caught up in the selling of ourselves to a potential other half......... so caught up we forget to be in that moment the moment when Knowing reveille's itself............

If we are brave enough to be here right now with no assumptions, no beliefs, no box's...... and just feel it... we will know what to do - really know.

How different would the outcome be?

How often do we meet someone with this knowing that they are not right - yet we choose to ignore this knowing wanting to satisfy a need driven by fear and looking back the out come fitted perfectly with that first knowing......

What if we eliminated the "dating" - allowed ourselves to become vulnerable and were 100% honest with our selves and the other person - would the process be shortened and honest?...........

I asked Jeffery what he would do if he met her and just knew this was wrong? He replied quite simply "We will make the most of our time and go on with our journeys, nothing lost but rather an adventure gained"

I love the idea - I have no experience when it comes to marriage. Relationships yes -
I see Marriage as committed hard work on yourself and the joint relationship - so those lusty, loving, passionate months/years of dating do they make a marriage?
 Listening to your soul - that makes sense to me - scary?hell yeah - worth it? -
I would so do it!

Well Jeffery and Laila met - they both say there expectations were very high and well surpassed.

They married on the Tuesday

They both glow with reverence and respect for each other.

The out come? - life how do you ever know unless you listen to that first knowing - JUMP and experience the journey with no regret.